Custody Lawyers in Northern Virginia

Award-Winning Custody Lawyers in Northern Virginia.From offices in Fairfax, Arlington, Manassas, Leesburg and Fredericksburg, the child custody and visitation lawyers at Livesay & Myers, P.C. represent clients all across Northern Virginia.

Our attorneys are veterans of many tough custody battles, fighting on behalf of mothers, fathers and grandparents in custody cases across Northern Virginia. We have expertise both with initial custody determinations and also cases involving relocation of custodial parents or modification of prior court orders.

Our custody lawyers have established a long track record of outstanding client service, reflected in our large number of 5-star client reviews and recognition by various legal organizations. Many of our attorneys have been named Super Lawyers, and several of them have received the prestigious AV Preeminent rating (the highest possible rating) for ethical standards and legal ability from Martindale-Hubbell. A large number of our attorneys have also received perfect 10.0 ratings from Justia and/or Avvo.

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Guide to Custody in Virginia

If you are facing a custody battle, nothing is more important than securing a custody and visitation arrangement that is in your child’s best interests. A solid understanding of your legal footing will be essential. That’s why the attorneys at Livesay & Myers, P.C. have put together this Guide to Child Custody in Virginia—to give you the information you need to advocate for your child’s best interests.

Types of Custody

It is important for any parent facing a custody or visitation case in Virginia to understand the differences and similarities between the different types of custodial arrangements under Virginia law.

Sole Custody. With “sole custody,” one parent assumes the major role in the physical, emotional, and moral development of the child. The custodial parent has primary authority to make all major decisions affecting the child, who lives primarily with this parent. Sole custody is defined under Virginia Code § 20-124.1 as an arrangement whereby “one person retains responsibility for the care and control of a child and has primary authority to make decisions concerning the child.”

Joint Custody. In a “joint custody” arrangement, both parents assume responsibility for the physical, moral, and emotional development of the child, and there are shared rights and responsibilities for making decisions that affect the child. Virginia Code § 20-124.1 provides:

“Joint custody” means (i) joint legal custody where both parents retain joint responsibility for the care and control of the child and joint authority to make decisions concerning the child even though the child’s primary residence may be with only one parent, (ii) joint physical custody where both parents share physical and custodial care of the child or (iii) any combination of joint legal and joint physical custody which the court deems to be in the best interest of the child.

Shared Custody. Virginia Code § 20-108.2(G)(3) states that the shared custody child support guidelines will only apply when each parent has “physical custody” of a child for more than 90 days. Under these “shared support” guidelines, the primary custodian will typically receive less child support than under the regular child support guidelines. It is therefore important to understand how days are calculated for purposes of the “90 day rule.” Virginia Code § 20-108.2(G)(3) states that a “day,” for purposes of application of the shared custody child support guidelines:

…means a period of twenty-four hours; however, where the parent who has the fewer number of overnight periods during the year has an overnight period with a child, but has physical custody of the shared child for less than twenty-four hours during such overnight period, there is a presumption that each parent shall be allocated one-half of a day of custody for that period.

The shared custody support guidelines may not apply when a parent who has 90 days of visitation has failed to exercise them. In addition, the parents themselves may agree not to apply the shared custody child support guidelines even though the 90-day threshold has been met.

Split Custody. In a split custody arrangement, each parent has primary or sole custody of one or more of the children. Virginia Code § 20-108.2(G)(2) explains that split custody, for child support purposes, is an arrangement in which “a parent is a custodial parent to the children in that parent’s family unit and is a noncustodial parent to the children in the other parent’s family unit.”

Divided Custody. The term “divided custody” describes the status of a child who lives alternately with one parent and then the other for specified periods of time, with each parent having primary custody rights while the child resides with that parent.

How Do Courts Decide Custody Cases in Virginia?

Courts in Virginia are legally required to base decisions regarding custody and visitation on the best interests of the child, applying the factors listed in Virginia Code § 20-124.3. Generally speaking, the six most important factors considered by Virginia courts in deciding custody and visitation cases are:

1. The Status Quo. The power of the status quo can’t be overstated. If one party stays in the marital home with the children, they will start with a leg up. They can argue that the children are comfortable in a familiar environment, with established neighborhood friends nearby and the peace of mind found in maintaining the same school. Judges will typically strive to make a divorce as painless for a child as possible, and believe that continuing similar routines in familiar places will aid in the transition.

2. Primary Caregiver. The judge will want to hear which parent is primarily responsible for day-to-day events and activities with the children, including medical care (doctor’s appointments, prescriptions), educational involvement (homework, parent-teacher conferences, field trips), extracurricular activities (coaching Little League, being a Girl Scout den leader, driving responsibilities), morning and bedtime routines, and even meals and laundry. Obviously, a stay-at-home parent will have an advantage in most of these categories, but that can be overcome by some of the other factors. See The Primary Caregiver in Virginia Custody Cases for an analysis of this important factor.

3. The Parent-Child Relationship. Courts will consider the bond between each parent and the children. This is often difficult to quantify, but evidence of having activities with the child (going for hikes, building model trains together, reading bedtime stories, watching sports together) can help to demonstrate a strong and lasting connection. In some cases, one parent takes steps to actively degrade the child’s relationship with the other parent. For a discussion of how that can impact the court’s custody determination, see Parental Alienation in Virginia.

4. Which Parent is More Likely to Co-Parent Willingly and Effectively? Even if one parent can “check all of the boxes” with the above factors, this fourth factor can occasionally override them all. If one parent seeks to destroy the other parent’s relationship with the children, and it can be proven, the court will react strongly to such behavior. Which parent is more likely to keep the other in the loop on meetings, recitals, practices and games for the children? Who is more likely to copy the other parent on emails with teachers or administrators? Which parent will willingly consult with the other before making an important decision in the child’s life? Has either parent disparaged the other in the presence of the child, or allowed others to do so? Has either parent used the child as a conduit for inappropriate information from parent to parent, or as a message delivery system regarding the divorce? Is there written or recorded evidence of this behavior? If so, it could be a game changer. Judges typically want to reward good behavior and punish bad behavior. And they don’t want to award primary custody to a parent who will abuse the position of power and authority that the court has granted them.

5. The Reasonable Preference of the Child. Virginia Code § 20-124.3 instructs the court to consider the child’s “reasonable preference” as to custody and visitation, “if the court deems the child to be of reasonable intelligence, understanding, age and experience.” However, this is a high bar to clear, and having your child testify can easily backfire. Many judges follow the mantra that “whoever calls the child as a witness, loses.” This is presumably based on a theory that a parent who is willing to put the child on the witness stand is not really pursuing the child’s best interest. So, proceed with caution in this area. Is the child a mature teenager? Will the child’s reasoning for his or her preference be compelling? Can the testimony take place “in camera” (typically in judge’s chambers or out of the earshot of both parents)? The answers to these questions can determine the wisdom of putting your child on the stand, which should be a rarely-employed tactic in Virginia custody cases. For a discussion of this issue, see Child Preference in Virginia Custody Cases.

6. Any history of violence or abusive behavior. This factor also has the potential to overwhelm all others, as the court will not place a child in harm’s way.

For information on some common preconceived and mistaken notions of what Virginia courts consider in deciding custody and visitation, see Four Child Custody Myths in Virginia.

Modification of Custody and Visitation

Custody and visitation issues are never permanently settled (until the children are grown). As children grow, parties remarry, and priorities change, a modification of custody and visitation may be required.

Virginia Code § 20-108 allows for modification of a custody or visitation order when (1) there has been a material change of circumstances and (2) it is in the best interest of the children to modify custody or visitation. The change of circumstances must have taken place after the entry of the last order in the case—it cannot be based on testimony or evidence that pre-dates the entry of the last order.

The change of circumstances may be either positive or negative. A positive change could be a parent’s remarriage or getting a new job with either a higher salary or more flexible work schedule. A negative change could be a child developing behavioral problems, one parent struggling with substance addiction, or a criminal conviction of a parent. As stated above, one parent’s denial of court-ordered visitation may also be a material change of circumstances allowing for a modification of custody.

If the court determines that there has been a material change of circumstances, it will then proceed to examine the best interests of the children by applying the factors listed in Virginia Code § 20-124.3. These are the same factors that were considered at the initial custody hearing, and include the age of the children; the health, needs, and relationship that each child has with each of their parents; and for any child of sufficient age, the child’s preference as to custody.


With more and more parents finding the need to move due to family connections, changes in employment and varying costs of living in different states across the county, relocation has steadily become a hot topic in custody cases. For answers to your questions on relocation, see Relocation in Virginia Child Custody Cases.

Grandparent Custody and Visitation

Virginia law allows any “person with a legitimate interest” to petition for custody or visitation. The Virginia Code specifically defines “persons with a legitimate interest” to include grandparents. For answers to your questions on grandparent custody and visitation, see Grandparent Rights in Virginia.

Denial of Visitation

A parent who refuses to allow another parent visitation that has been court-ordered risks being found in contempt of court, thus subjecting themselves to possible jail time or a fine. Denial of visitation by a custodial parent can also result in the court transferring custody to the other parent.

It is also important to understand that the noncustodial parent’s failure to pay court-ordered child support does not legally justify the custodial parent’s denial of visitation. The reverse is also true: denial of visitation does not justify non-payment of child support.

Home Studies and Guardians Ad Litem

The judge may not be the only official with whom you will have to deal in your custody and visitation case. First, the judge may order “home studies” in your case, in which a social worker is sent to the homes of the contending parents. The social worker will evaluate each home, speaking with each parent (and sometimes the child), and report back to the judge. Second, the judge may appoint a guardian ad litem, a lawyer who shall be tasked with representing the best interests of the child. The guardian ad litem will speak with each parent and the child, and make a recommendation regarding custody and visitation to the judge. For more information, see The Role of the Guardian Ad Litem in Your Case.

Our Custody Lawyers

Livesay & Myers, P.C. has a team of experienced custody lawyers across five office locations: in Fairfax, Arlington, Leesburg, Manassas and Fredericksburg. Be sure to read our client reviews, then examine the profiles of each of our attorneys to find the one who is the best fit for you.

Spring Consultation Special. For a limited time, schedule an initial 1-hour consultation with one of our child custody attorneys for just $150 ($200 for our Fairfax and Arlington offices). Contact us today to take advantage of this discounted rate.

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